El misterio de mi amor

Mystery of my love

I

I have never loved,

   since never  loved me

the women I loved

and I didn't love

those who tried to love me!

II

I  first pursued

Impossible loves,

and when the overwhelming body

 forced me, I loved,

but it was not love;

surely  it was sweet discovery of pleasure,

flesh into flesh, fire with fire

fury subsided into the abyss of life;

but it was not love.

III

Neither  was love

the spasm which I waited

to see the air colored  

by your forms,

when was  enough for me

to feel your  presence

ethereal and impalpable, although present,

yet not mine

and it was not love.

IV

So, I'm  still in search of you, sublime, decanted love.

Who are you fleeting present of God?

Are you  for all of us or just for a few?

Do you really exist oh my Elem?

Are you  a catcher of   hearts and reason?

Real or unreal?

Liar or truthful?

V

Still I'm seeking of you,

poignant love

unveiled eyes,

flying mate,

slave and mistress,

mother and lover,

mystery of life!

El Misterio de mi amor

Yo nunca he amado,

puesto que nunca me amaron

las mujeres que yo amaba

e yo no amè

las que trataron de amarme!

II

Primero perseguí

imposibles amores,

y cuando la el deseo de la carne

me obligó, fue abrumado y me encantó,

pero no era amor;

seguramente era dulce descubrimiento del placer,

carne en la carne, fuego con fuego

furia que se derrama en el abismo de la vida;

y sin embargo no era amor.

III

Ni fue amor

el espasmo con que yo esperava

a ver el aire

colorarse por tus formas,

cuando era suficiente para mi

 sentir tu presencia

etérea e impalpable, aunque presente,

y a pesar de todo tu  no eras mía y no fue amor.

IV

Así te busco  todavía sublime, decantado amor.

¿Que eres tu? fugaz presente de Dios?

¿Es para todos o sólo para unos pocos?

¿Realmente existes oh mi Juana? ¿

Eres un receptor de corazón y la razón? ¿

Real o irreal? ¿

Mentiroso o verdadero?

V

E yo te voy buscando,

amor conmovedor

ojos de misterio,

compaña de vuelo ,

esclava y amante,

madre y amante,

misterio de la vida!

5 Ways Nannies Can Help Divorced Parents

For divorced parents with shared custody, coordinating childcare can become a real dilemma. Where there was once two parents jointly juggling the family, work, and home related responsibilities, after parents divorce each parent is often left to fend for themselves and, as a result, childcare arrangements can become a mere afterthought.
When children of divorced parents need full-time childcare, hiring a nanny can be a feasible childcare choice. In addition to providing personalized and customized childcare, nannies can help divorced parent’s co-parent successfully.
Here are 5 ways how:
Nannies can provide consistency of care. Children whose parents share custody often live between houses, traveling from one parent’s home to the other quite often. In the midst of the transition and ongoing changes nannies can provide consistent care. Nannies can help ensure the children’s schedules and routines are followed in both homes and help parents avoid logistical nightmares of tag teaming drop-offs and pick-ups from daycare. Children feel safe and secure when there is routine and structure in their lives and a nanny can bring those feelings to light by providing consistent, high quality childcare.
Nannies can provide a sense of stability. As everything around a child is changing, a nanny can be a source of stability in a child’s life. When parents are going through a divorce the bond a child has with her nanny may be the most stable and stress-free relationship she has. Nannies can help children cope with divorce by being a safe, secure, familiar, and constant force in their lives. Children thrive when they feel safe and secure.
Nannies can advocate for the children. Nannies can help ensure that the child’s needs are being met first and foremost, regardless of which home she is at. Keeping both parents abreast of any changes in behavior, demeanor, or physical, social, intellectual, and emotional needs can ensure that the child’s needs are clearly articulated. Nannies can also alert the parents if the child seems stressed or displays signs that he is having difficulty coping with the divorce. When a child’s needs are met by both parents, it will reinforce that he is loved.
Nannies can reassure children that it’s not their fault. During a divorce children may bear the unearned burden of responsibility for their parent’s breakup. Having a nanny to reinforce that the child is loved by both parents can help lift this unnecessary and painful emotional burden.
Nannies can facilitate communication. During and after a divorce the emotions are often too raw for parents to have successful and meaningful communication.  While a nanny shouldn’t be in the position of being the go between for non-child centered communication, having a nanny to help facilitate communication regarding the child can ensure a smooth transmission of information. Having a nanny who is able to communicate information about the children to both parents, to transport the children to and from each parent’s home, and to put the children’s schedule into a useable form for all parties to refer to can help ensure important messages are delivered timely and accurately.         
If you’re a divorced parent considering hiring a nanny, it’s important that you select a nanny who is a solid communicator. Having a detailed work agreement and custody schedule that your nanny clearly understands is also vital to setting your nanny up for success.  While turning to your nanny as a confidant can be tempting, resist the urge to blur professional lines. Treating your nanny as a valued professional rather than a friend will empower her to do her job well and to always put the child’s best interests first.

 P.S. This post was  proposed to me for publication by Sandra McAubre,  I'm therefore publishing it by her invitation and under her permission. See also the link below fore more information:

http://www.hireananny.com/blog/5-ways-nannies-can-help-divorced-parents/